Entertainment For Lively Minds
It's Enough To Make Grown Men Cry
Posted by wayfarer on 2 August 2010 - 3:53am.
Apologies if this has been done before - I had a quick look in the archives and didn't find anything.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-10814813
The Beeb has come up with a list of twenty films that make men cry. As someone who blubs at the drop of a hat when watching a film - at home, on a plane or at the cinema - it struck a chord. Three of the films mentioned get me every time: Babe, Field of Dreams and Mary Poppins. Chitty Bang Bang, Wings of Desire & Amelie are others.
How about you, chaps (& chappesses)?
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Bladerunner ...
Gets me every time. When Batty does the "I've seen things you people wouldn't believe ..." speech and ends with "... time to die". Every single time. Even now, as I write this, the hairs stand up on my neck. I feel a tear coming ...
Bladerunner - the future in a sad way
I agree that section of the film is exceptionally effecting. The many times I have seen Bladerunner the more tragic it becomes and the more emotionally involving. It is a classic of the cinema.
It's got worse as I have grown older
The scene that readily springs to mind is not from a film but - of all things - Eastenders. It was years ago. To provide some context, good-natured, curly-haired lovable loser Nigel Bates falls in love and eventually marries the woman of his dreams. She is called Debs has a school age daughter already, but that's fine by Nigel. Months go by and life is wonderful for them all.
Then one day Debs gets hit by a car and dies. We don't see the incident, the news (from a policeman) comes as just as much of a shock to the viewers, as it does to Nigel. Nigel is devastated, as you would expect, and then - even worse - he realises the full horror of having to pick up the daughter from school, knowing what he knows.
Later on, with a very long lens (as if we are keeping a respectful distance), we see Nigel meet the daughter outside the school gates. We cannot hear the dialogue. All we hear is traffic noise and the chatter of people passing by.
She looks surprised and delighted to see him pick her up from school. He gravely sits her down on a bench. He talks, then they hug. The credits roll in silence.
I know it is a staple of the soaps to have the odd sudden death, but I thought that one was done rather well.
How different....
...to how it would probably be done on the show now.
Cinema Paradiso
*Spoiler alert.
I'm sorry - and I know it's all personal and all that but if Mary Poppins, Eastenders and Bladerunner get the ducts going what will this do to you?
Even as I type I'm reaching for industrial quantities of the ol' eye-dabber...
Beat me to it..
Thanks McL, this reduces me to a crumpled wreck every time (which, being 6'7" and built like the proverbial must be a strange sight).
It's difficult to explain the reasons for this clip being so devastatingly emotional without explaining the context, which I won't do but will urge everybody to watch the whole film.
Cinema Paradiso has been my favourite film for about 18 years and I ration my viewings to ensure its effect doesn't diminish.
Just the soundtrack has me blinking away the tears.
Cinema Paradiso - The only one
Yeas,
Cimema Paradiso, is the only one ever to set the tear ducts in motion.
First time I saw that scene, I came all over funny like.
I remember the GLW was doing the ironing, it was a wet Sunday afternoon.
OMG as they say I'm back there again.
Think that film had a real strong connection, despite the fact I hated what we called in those days the pictures, and was terrified when I went there.
The Railway Children
You know the bit....blub blub
My favourite moment in all of cinema...
is Humph n' Ingrid's reunion kiss in Casablanca. I have been known to get a bit dewy eyed at that. But I don't usually cry at films... perhaps I am a cold-hearted bastard.
What's with all the tears?
Just recently it seems to be the main criteria for the success of a film. Everyone (especially blokes) who sees Toy story 3 seems to be in bragging war for how dehydrated it makes them. Mark Kermode's the worst he seems to start filling up the moment the Pearl & Dean music starts. All for having an emotional response to films but in the words of Ray Davis "stop all your sobbing".
Disagree with the sentiment of this I'm afraid
but LOVE the image of Mark Kermode filling up the moment the Pearl & Dean music starts... fab
All I can say is ...
... "Wake up champ!"
*blubs*
The first three minutes
of UP.
Watched it with my children. All impervious to it. Me....blub blub
Have an up
For Up!
But the last half hour or so
was one of the most bizarre I've ever seen. I thought I'd fallen asleep (after the heartbreaking first act) and was having a deeply peculiar dream. Or an acid trip. And I was wide awake for the whole movie. Maybe you have to be a kid to get it. Or an animator.
All made sense to me
In between blubbing. In response to an earlier post, it's not that there's a competition on delclaring blubbage it's that kid's films have started deliberately targeting sad bits at adults whose defences have been scraped bare by the succession of broken sleep and emotional moments that having kids entails.
I'm not looking to cry. I'm still in trouble with one of my friends for laughing uproariously at all the sad bits in the risible English Patient (nearly got thrown out). But faced with Up or Toy Story 3 I can't help myself.
Also from Pixar
this moment from Wall-E:
They're robots, for crying out loud. ROBOTS!
It is my considered opinion that the people at Pixar are geniuses.
There is a heart at the centre of each film they make, and it is unmistakably human...
Hannibal Brooks
Oliver Reed. And an elephant.
Described by IMDb as a comedy, it was written by Dick Clement and Ian La Frenais (of Likely Lads fame).
Gets me every time it's on the box.
Isn't it directed by
Micheal Winner? Still good though.
Memory must be failing me
Yes, you're right, I had either forgotten about that (or tried to excise it from my mind) - but either way probably a much different Michael Winner from the the one we love to hate nowadays. Like you say, it's still a good film though.
not available (officially) on DVD
One of my favourite films.
Elephant Man
"You've...all..been..'show'..kind."
And Railway Children, as Dave says - presents for Cribbo, presents for Jenny (when she appears to be floating) and 'Daddy'
Deer Hunter
After Walken's shot himself and they're stood around the piano.
Also in DH
When De Niro first arrives home in the middle of the night, sees all the bunting, and decides to check into a motel. Then cries his fucking heart out. Does me in, that bit.
Brief Encounter
reduces me to a blubbering wreck. The sense of absolute desolation in Celia Johnson's character combines with the music and photography to get me every time.
Excuse me a moment, I think I've got something in my eye.
ET
The goodbye scene.
Sixth Sense..
This scene at the end had me choking up, sap though I am. M Night has somewhat dropped the ball since.
I'm sorry
But I have to leave this here:
Yes loved it too..
but homage is homage.
Whilst we are on the subject:
Not the most obvious weepie
But I blubbed at several points in Anvil! The Story of Anvil.
Heartwarming and heartbreaking in equal measure.
The bit in Anvil when they make up after the studio argument....
....where the drummer quits. And Lips tells him he loves him. That got me.
Billy Elliot
The bit where they find out Billy has been accepted to Ballet School, and his Dad goes running up the street to tell his mates from down't pit.
And then the final scene.....
Jimmy Stewart gets me going
It's a Wonderful Life was always a sure bet to get the waterworks going.
Haven't seen it in a decade, what with my wife having different film tastes and little time for TV/film viewing. Bought it just before Christmas, but just the thought of the opening credits "Please God, something's the matter with Daddy..." gets me going even more now that I've got my own kids and feel the parallels painfully close.
Have an up as well
An up to you as well, tquinlan. Its a Wonderful Life is the one that always gets me too, although it's the end of the movie that does it to me.
Dear Zachary
This documentary had my heart in my throat within seconds of starting, and blubbing on several occasions. It also features the most heart-rending twist imaginable.
I'm not a parent, but I think this film would be almost impossible to watch if I were.
2004
I'd just started university in Liverpool, and three weeks into my residency, I'm sat watching "My Girl" with my new colleagues; male and female alike. We're still at the point where we're getting to know each other. It's the honeymoon period, every comment is analysed internally.
I'm sat on the floor, furthest away from the door, lent up against the bed; I've already become emotionally attached to the film more than I want to when this scene comes on:
I slowly got up, tears streaming down my face, and quietly hurried past these relative strangers and out the door. A couple of them came out a few minutes later to check on my welfare. I was eighteen years old and I'd just cried at a children's film, eighteen year olds aren't supposed to do that in front of their friends, let alone people they barely now.
Blub blub blub...
Saving Private Ryan
The first few minutes - the Tom Hanks as an old man character in the Normandy graveyards and then the soldiers still on the landing crafts before they get to the beaches (but not the actual scenes once they get on the beach itself).
Maybe it's the knowledge of what's about to happen - maybe it's knowing that my Grandad was on a craft just like it that day and thinking about him - whatever it is, I can't turn the taps off (and I can't not watch it whenever it's on TV either).
A pedant writes
It's been some time since I saw this, but I think you mean Matt Damon's character.
His "tell me I lived a good life" thing was because, well, Tom Hanks never made it.
A shamed poster replies
Indeed. Please forgive me.
Shaving Ryan's Privates
brought tears to my eyes but not for the right reasons
As writing legend William Goldman points out...
The old man framing device is a bit of a sham as the elderly Ryan appears to be remembering a series of events in which he didn't actually feature for quite some time.
Great film, though, and undeserving of its reputation as one great sequence followed by two hours of lesser action, IMHO.
"That'll do, pig."
*sob*.
Even the trailer gets me going
Once Upon A Time in America
When, at the end, a broken De Niro finally appreciates what a complete waste he's made of his life - and other's, and achieves a redemption of sorts. Even if it's just (possibly) in his own head.
Noodles, I slipped.
Sob.....
Yes
Also, check out the way Dominic checks his own reflection out in the shop window, prior to this (fatal) street fight. Subtle it ain't, but it's a good enough metaphor as any for gazing on one's own mortality.
I blub
with great frequency.
Two examples I watched today - Gladiator (Maximus's dying/floating visions of his own Elysium and reconciliation with his wife and son, with that music); and Bobby (seen for the first time tonight; the scenes of chaos and horror at the assassination overlaid by Robert Kennedy's passionate, visionary eloquence, full of optimism and possibility which we know was cruelly shattered).
The most intensely emotional film for me remains Shadowlands - the moment where Hopkins/Lewis breaks down in the chapel leaves me in pieces. Every time.
Oo blimey Shadowlands yes...
I saw that in the cinema on first release and was in bits. I suspect it set a seed in my mind, amongst other more prosaic things, that ended up with me living in the area of the Golden Valley (a few miles south of the valley itself to be pedantic)
My Life,
A post Batman Michael Keaton film from the early 90's, definately a mawkish, possibly badly done story about a terminally ill man videoing messages for his young children to watch after, you know... I say possibly because all I remember from my single viewing are the great wracking sobs and blubbering, snot filled, spluttering wreck I became. I was a teenager at the time. Now as a father I could not countenance a second viewing.
Come to think of it, the cancer research ad on TV a few years ago (magic mirror, major events, dead significant others,,,) had much the same effect. It was the kid in the new school uniform *cough, sniff, blub*
Doctor Bastard Who
It's the summer holidays. I'm in bed, watching the Silence In The Library two-parter for the first time since the fabulous series 5 finished, and knock me down with a fucking feather, I'm crying like a child, in two places. When River dies and when the Doctor opens the TARDIS at the end by snapping his fingers.
It's such good writing. Long may you reign, Mr. Moffat. Long may you reign.
Here are a couple
Here are a couple of off the wall ones which probably just show how shallow I am rather than sensitive.
Futurama episode where Fry's dog is abandoned outside the Pizzeria for the rest of it's life to the strains of "If I wait Forever".
Uncle Buck where Buck sits alone on at the station while Steve Martin reflects on the inconsistencies of his story.
Oh - and Bagpuss yawning but that is more to do with the passing of Oliver Postgate than the old fat furry catpuss himself.
Steve Martin wasn't in Uncle Buck
was he?
You're thinking of
Planes, Trains and Automobiles
Dead right, thanks
Dead right, thanks
Have an uppy
for the Futurama reference. I'm haunted by that scene!
I'm touched - first up ever,
I'm touched - first up ever, thanks.
I was beginning to think of myself as Freddy McThreadkiller!
Think he means
Planes, trains and automobiles?
Drat - beaten to it.
The film I struggle with is "A League of our Own" when the Geena Davis character visits the Hall of Fame at the end of the film.
There's no crying in baseball!
I haven't seen that film for ages but Tom Hanks performance in it and in particular the delivery of the above line is fantastic. I often cry at baseball films and sport in general. I was in bits during the Olympics last time.
"You wanna have a catch"?
msf
The Elephant Man........
I have only seen it once and it upset me that much that I have no wish to see it again (I was about 17, I think). That bloody Michael Elphick, the swine!
It's the bit where...
...he says "oh thank you, thank you, everybody's been so kind" when he is given his vanity set and Hannah Gordon starts to well up, well...
Confession
Not a movie, but I've never been able to watch all the episodes of Brideshead revisited. I saw the first absolutely wonderful episode ( hm, not sure if it was one extra long first episode or if they ran the first two episodes as one ? ) and next week sat down to watch the next...I cried from start to finish, though nothing really bad happened. But you could see that things were not going to go well for Sebastian, and I just couldn't bear it. So I stopped watching.
Later I bought the book, but could only read it as long as everyone was happy and I could still hope that it would stay that way. So I still don't know what happened to those people, I read the last couple of pages so I know they didn't end up happily ever after, but I don't know the details.
Can anyone here give me a short synopsis that will enlighten me but not reduce me to a puddle of salt water ?
The ones that aren't heterosexual practicing Catholics
All turn out to be wrong' uns. This and the general state of the nation get Charles down somewhat.
It's rarely about the plot with Evelyn Waugh though...
It's just a pop video
This video the Dixie Chicks did for their version of Patty Griffin's Top Of The World can get me going:
I have a few of these.
They're pretty obvious, but they do it for me every time. Sniff.
OHMSS
'On Her Majesty's Secret Service'.
Don't mention the war
Spitfires over the bombed church in Mrs Miniver.
Bernard Miles learns his wife has been killed in In Which We Serve.
David Niven quoting Andrew Marvell in A Matter of Life & Death.
Art
One for fathers of daughters. Go to the National Gallery, see Orphans II from Frederick Cayley Robinson's Acts of Mercy. It's extraordinarily powerful and quite disturbing.
http://www.guardian.co.uk/artanddesign/gallery/2010/jul/25/frederick-cay...
Grease
gets me every time sadly. Think it's something to do with taking me back to that time when pop music and getting together with your childhood sweetheart seemed the most important things in the world.
The Wrath of Khan...
blubbed like a baby when Spock sacrificed himself...and the end bit of Man on Fire with the music, and little Dakota, and..well watch it and see.
Manon des Sources
When Yves Montand, in talking to his long lost lover's friend, realises that Jean de Florette, who he'd driven to finacial ruin and a premature grave, was his son by Florette.
I must be a heartless bastard
because my thought at that revelation was "Yeah, got you, you f****r!"
I Spent The Whole of Both Films Hating Him
But I realised what he'd done just an instant before he did. It got to me.
By the way - Isn't Emmanuelle Beart gorgeous in that film? No wonder Ugolin topped himself.
but in real life...
Married her....attaboy Daniel Auteil
I must be a heartless bastard
because my thought at that revelation was "Yeah, got you, you f****r!"
Here's Chet!
Sure it's corny and a more than a little maudlin, but I defy even the most flinty-hearted macho man not to suddenly "get something in his eye" while watching this
Shit! Even the band are crying!
Silent Running's a killer...
when Bruce Dern has to explain to one of his robot helpers (dewey?) how important the mission is and when he was a kid and, sorry, I can't quite finish this
Oh blimey yes!
I'd completely forgotten about that film ... it's all coming back to me, watching it with parents as a teenage boy and bursting into tears at the end. I think I buried the humiliating memories!
I've got the movie on DVD but haven't got round to watching it - maybe I'm scared to! Will it still have the emotional impact? Oh, I must watch it again.
Oh blimey yes!
I'd completely forgotten about that film ... it's all coming back to me, watching it with parents as a teenage boy and bursting into tears at the end. I think I buried the humiliating memories!
I've got the movie on DVD but haven't got round to watching it - maybe I'm scared to! Will it still have the emotional impact? Oh, I must watch it again.
The Ghost and Mrs Muir
Probably as result of my Pirate / Sea Captain fixation
The eponymous and lonely Mrs Muir joins her Captain when she dies becoming forever young in the process.
Quite a few for me
I blub at anything. Stupid sentimental old fool that I am.
Au Revoir Les Enfants - the scene when Jean Bonnet is led away by the Germans
Whale Rider - the scene where Pai speaks of her love and respect for her grandfather on stage.
Goodbye Mr Chips - when his wife dies.
Dead Poet's Society - the "oh captain" bit at the end
The Orphanage - although ostensibly a ghost story this film packs an enormous emotional wallop at the end.
And most recently I watched A Little Princes while on holiday with the family. It's based on the book by Frances Hodgson Burnett who also wrote The Secret Garden. My 6 year old daughter asked if we could watch it one evening and it caught us all unawares. It was the first time my daughter, wife and I have cried at something together and it prompted a wonderful conversation with my daughter afterwards which I will always treasure.
Whale Rider
That scene gets me too. It's all the more remarkable because the performance seems to come out of nowhere. The girl playing Pai is fairly ordinary until that moment, and then... wow. It's extraordinary.
"The Lives of others" A
"The Lives of others" A Stasi agent spying on a writer and his lovely actress girlfriend for the East German state is so touched by their innocence and love for each other, that he risks his own life to try to save them.
The bit that made me club is right at the end, when the Stasi agent is living as a cleaner in reunified Germany, and buys a book by the writer, only to find it's dedicated to "a good man"...him.
Damn auto correct again!
Damn auto correct again! That should read blub
As well as the final scene in Toy Story 3...
When the music swells as the chief breaks out...
There are quite a few moments in It's A Wonderful Life that get me - this is the first. When a young George shows old man Gower his mistake...
Might have suggested this before
Paul Whitehouse in Help playing the taxi driver Monty.
I've mentioned this scene before
but it's the combination of the role-reversal of Jailer and Prisoner, Takeshi's almost-stoic acceptance of his fate and the crumbling of Conti's English facade in those last few minutes.
Despite the fact that Takeshi learnt English phonetically for the role, his delivery always breaks me.
The last line's a killer.
The faith of a young girl
They got me with Whistle Down The Wind and caught me again with its 21st century re-tooling as Pan's Labyrinth.
A Curiosity: the first time I saw Million Dollar Baby I thought it was about her and it had little effect; watching it the second time I realised it was about HIM and was in bits at the end.
The brilliant Anvil film was tough but I felt fantasic afterwards